As we grow independent the very first “MANTRA” that we accustom ourselves to is “DECISION IS THE ULTIMATE POWER”. Gradually we learn that ” YOUR DECISIONS ARE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY”. As we move forward we jumble all these concepts and make a deduction that since our decision affect our own self thus they should be self-centric. This notion is contradictory because we tend to forget how much our actions influence the people around us. You may not like accepting it, but this is how things work. At the end of the day, it is going to be about how your decisions have affected other people. At times, a choice may primarily affect the person who makes it, but never exclusively. When I say “other people” I don’t mean that every Tom, Dick and Harry should be on your radar list, but at least consider the people who are dearest to you.
It is applauded when people say they are living life for themselves. Sometimes this is appropriate, but not always. Lives are interlaced in millions of different ways and “I’m just doing me” attitude does not work consistently. For instance, when a child makes a drastic decision, his/her parents or guardians are the people who have to face its repercussions. I recently came across an aged man, who has to take shelter in an old age home just due to the sole reason that his children have chosen a better life for themselves and unfortunately he isn’t a part of it. There were days when he was the bread earner, but today he stands dependent even for a smile. He’s in a situation where every single day of his life is the outcome of somebody’s decision, right from the food he eats to the time he goes to sleep , from the places he can visit to the people he meets.Some of you may feel this is cruel, ignorant and so on, but this is just an evident example of how our choices affect our dearest. There might be many such incidents that go unnoticed. The moment you decide to argue with your grandparents in order to express your disagreement might hurt them, the minute you decide to chuck a week old plan with your sibling because you want to watch a movie can be upsetting.
This does not mean that choices should be made without giving thought to oneself, but it’s equally wise to accept and understand that it’ll play a part on others’ lives too. Choices matter, people matter and when there is awareness of the influence a choice can have, there are better outcomes. There’s much more to you than just yourself, there’s an array of people attached to you.